So, it's that time of year again! The holiday buzz is all around...stores are lit up with Autumn oranges and bright reds, people are planning family dinners, couples are deciding which holiday they will spend with which side of the family, people are planning holiday get-aways, gift shopping has commenced, and holiday music and movies are all around us. It's the most fabulous time of year! Right?!
Well, not necessarily, especially if you are dealing with holiday heartbreak. And I'm not just talking about a break-up. There are several forms of holiday heartbreak that people deal with every year such as being alone/lonely due to break up or divorce, grieving the loss of family/friends past or present, dealing with fall outs from family members or friends, tension and distance between children or parents, family trauma and drama, etc.
So first and foremost if you are reading this, you are NOT alone! Secondly, if you are feeling like you just don't know how you will make it...
Okay, so I know we live in a time, space, and culture where it is almost encouraged to place blame on someone else or others and find a way to not take any accountability for your actions or the part you played in the matter. With social media and its spectators, it's easier than easy, to point the finger and place the blame on someone else and have a whole swarm of "your followers," family, and friends come to your aid, hype you up, and agree with your points of view...giving them the one sided version that obviously is truth because you said so.
But let's go back to that word "accountability": the fact or condition of being accountable; taking responsibility. Surely you've heard the saying that there are two sides to every story, and some versions go as far as to say, and then there is the truth (so technically, three sides).
Now, the same holds true for when you go through a heartache of some kind. These moments in time are notorious for you wanting to place the blame...
So by now you've probably heard of Mercury Retrograde and how when it comes through the Universal pathway it presents problems, issues, and many inconveniences. If you haven't heard of it then you may have wondered why at certain times in the year, for a few weeks at a time, you seem to experience many things in life that just kind of give you grief, make you feel some type of way, and make you say, "really"?! (With an accompanying eye roll )
For this reason many people get a little fearful when they hear that Mercury Retrograde is coming around and entering the building, understandably, but I’m here to tell you…don’t be! Although things CAN get a little dicey with communication, technology, travel plans, and can highlight various feelings and emotions, all is okay!
The way you approach it is just like you should approach ALL areas of your life. With
Okay, so you might be thinking this is a far stretch. You know, that after all these years of people experiencing heartache and heartbreak, that I have the one simple step that will save you from that miserable pain and suffering. Well, it is in fact true, that I do.
Now, while I did mention I have the one simple step, I didn't exactly say that it would be easy. You see, there is a difference between the two, what is simple can still be hard. Think of getting up in front of an audience and speaking in front of a large crowd. The steps are in fact very simple. You have a topic or subject you plan to speak on, you write it out and practice it a few times, the day comes, and all you have to do is walk out on the stage and speak. Simple right? But how many people do you know, heck it may even be you, who say that they could or would never to do that! It's too hard.
So you get my point and by this point, you're probably thinking, get to the point (of this blog) already! What...
Have you ever wondered why when you've experienced a personal heart break, whether it be from a friend, family member, or lover...moving on just simply doesn't do the trick to heal your heartache.
I mean let's admit that trying to stop thinking about them, not hanging around them, blocking them, and even going so far as to delete them from ALL your social media accounts, just still doesn't seem to help that pain and hurt that you feel in your heart when you do hear their name, come across their picture, or run into them on the street GO AWAY!
Well if you are searching for a few reasons for that, here they are:
1. Ignoring things does NOT make them just go away (although that would be nice, now wouldn't it).
2. True heartbreak usually requires a need for us to stop, pause, reflect, and do some inner healing work. Which, let us be honest, not nearly enough of us do.
3. Your ego! Yup, this is the reason why most people don't do #2. The fact remains that when you are heart broken...